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On Openness and the Different Versions of Ourselves

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I have not written here for a long time, so now feels like the right moment. Today I was thinking about openness – the kind where you are not afraid to show the people around you who you really are. And I realised that everyone around you knows you, but they each know something different.

For example, my colleagues have absolutely no idea about my personal life or daily routine. At the same time, my good friends are the opposite: they know my everyday life and what I am like in it, but have no clue what is going on with me at work.

What is most interesting is that it seems I do not fully know everything about myself either.

Can this be fixed? Unfortunately, probably not. Still, I want to note something from a wonderful game I have been playing recently, Disco Elysium. Among all the in-game hints there was one that said: 'Do not be afraid to say "strange" things. People can overlook a lot…' My eyes always caught only the first part of this hint, so that is what stuck in my mind.

Though it is worth admitting: our society is built on very different values, so saying 'strange' things is probably not the best idea, and we have to clearly mark the boundaries between the different people in our lives. That is what I do as well.

However, my Telegram channel is both soulless and personal at the same time, so here I stay myself in everything (but do not quote me on that).

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